rest in peace, dear Christian
Things happen and there is no answer why.
Different people will respond differently.
Painful experiences strikes the deepest in the hearts of those involved.
It's bad enough to be in the shoes of those who have to make life-changing decisions.
We who are outsiders cannot and should not judge.
Is it right, is it wrong? Why did it happen? Black? White? Grey?
But the loss is deepest to those involved.
I dont know how long it will be for those beloved to recover from such a loss.
All I know is, God is good. And His mercy and grace, overwhelming.
So rest in peace, dear Christian.
And let the Lord grant you sweet rest.
Henri Nouwen's devotional reading, An Honest Being-With, describes it well:
"Being with a friend in great pain is not easy. It makes us uncomfortable. We do not know what to do or what to say, and we worry about how to respond to what we hear. Our temptation is to say things that come more out of our own fear than out of our care for the person in pain. Sometimes we say things like "Well, you're doing a lot better than yesterday," or "You will soon be your old self again," or "I'm sure you will get over this." But often we know that what we're saying is not true, and our friends know it too.
We do not have to play games with each other. We can simply say: "I am your friend, I am happy to be with you." We can say that in words or with touch or with loving silence. Sometimes it is good to say: "You don't have to talk. Just close your eyes. I am here with you, thinking of you, praying for you, loving you.""
Different people will respond differently.
Painful experiences strikes the deepest in the hearts of those involved.
It's bad enough to be in the shoes of those who have to make life-changing decisions.
We who are outsiders cannot and should not judge.
Is it right, is it wrong? Why did it happen? Black? White? Grey?
But the loss is deepest to those involved.
I dont know how long it will be for those beloved to recover from such a loss.
All I know is, God is good. And His mercy and grace, overwhelming.
So rest in peace, dear Christian.
And let the Lord grant you sweet rest.
Henri Nouwen's devotional reading, An Honest Being-With, describes it well:
"Being with a friend in great pain is not easy. It makes us uncomfortable. We do not know what to do or what to say, and we worry about how to respond to what we hear. Our temptation is to say things that come more out of our own fear than out of our care for the person in pain. Sometimes we say things like "Well, you're doing a lot better than yesterday," or "You will soon be your old self again," or "I'm sure you will get over this." But often we know that what we're saying is not true, and our friends know it too.
We do not have to play games with each other. We can simply say: "I am your friend, I am happy to be with you." We can say that in words or with touch or with loving silence. Sometimes it is good to say: "You don't have to talk. Just close your eyes. I am here with you, thinking of you, praying for you, loving you.""
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